Distraction. This is a great word to add into our day. When we look at Facebook or other social media, we can use this word. Facebook is designed to retain you. To distract from what you came for, and stay longer. How many times have you said “now what was I going to do?” After checking in on Facebook? So, once we start to use proper word selection to describe what is happening, we can begin to make a better decision. When we “check in on Facebook”, doesn’t that feel important? It’s necessary. When we say “Facebook distracted me” isn’t that far more realistic? When we can identify what is truly happening with proper word selection, we can also isolate what matters today.
When we drink, are we drinking because we want to? Do we like it? Or are we simply distracting ourselves from something that is going on in our lives. There seems to me to be a large disconnect between “I need a drink” and “Let’s celebrate”.
“There is nothing on TV”. Need I say more? When you have your butt parked in front of the TV, and you don’t even like what you’re watching. Come on, admit it. We’ve all been there.
“Let’s go to the mall, I need some retail therapy”.
Fitness, music, partying, running, running away, TV, slacking off, internet, dating sites, porn, , smoking, drugs, social media, shopping.
All distractions. Look, I have my own fair share of distractions that I try to use to procrastinate, or dodge the inevitable outcome of something I don’t want or like. I would say everyone has SOMETHING in their life they try to stay away from.
Here’s what I propose. Just call it a distraction. No more sugar coating it. No more pretending it’s not there. No more lying to ourselves. When we use the word “I need a distraction now”, we cope. We medicate. We wait. All things can be good for us. I’m not saying we get to dodge these things forever, but when we can honestly admit that there is SOMETHING there, even if we will get to it later, it means we accept it exists. And with that, we can take distractions for what they are.
Be honest with yourself, and feel better. If you’re lonely, and you hate that feeling of being lonely, some time on social media might help you. Watching a movie might remove some of the lonely, for now. But the truth is, when we lie to ourselves about “distractions” by telling ourselves “I’m popular on social media”, we aren’t being authentic. And that pain is certainly never going to go away, as we all have fallen down the foxhole of digital-self-purpose, instead of admitting it’s not our lives. It’s a distraction. From something. For me, it’s loneliness. The second I admitted I was lonely, I recognized my distractions. And then I took them for what they were, and that’s OK.